November 13, 2009

House, or, A Fresh Start

Ok it’s time to finally post some house-related stuff. It’s late, so I’ll just make this a quick one, and post some pictures of the outside. Stay tuned, and I’ll post pictures of the kitchen tear-out and partial renovation. Maybe that’ll keep you coming back :)

Stage 1: The House

Here are some pictures of the house. I apologize if some of this is a repeat; I know my wife has posted pictures as well.

 

1) Front of the house, late fall

2) Front of the house, mid-summer

3) Left side of the house (mid-summer)

4) Back yard shot from upstairs window (end of summer)

5) Backyard, very much needing to be raked (late-fall)

6) Facing back of house, again needing a raking (late-fall)

November 11, 2009

Full Circle, or, Even Steven

1 week ago:

  • I was feeling the beginnings of a sickness that would take me out for 4 days.
  • My kitchen was cramped, with tile and holes in the wall and ugly linoleum on the floor, and stone-age wiring.
  • I was preparing, with determination, to try leading worship without my guitar.

Today:

  • I am healthy!
  • One wall is gone, the other walls are patched and smooth, the old floor is gone and brand new 5/8” plywood is down, and the house is wired for the 21st century (and a dishwasher!
  • I am ready to go back to my guitar, satisfied that I tried.

This week has come full circle. After viewing it as a whole, instead of just zooming in on a single negative moment, I can see that it was a wonderful week.

PS: Renovation pics coming soon, I promise.

November 8, 2009

Update, or, Home Sick

Here’s quick update, since I’ve been out of action for a few days.

  • I’ve been ill since Wednesday night. In fact, it started right after I published my last blog post, although I’d been feeling weird earlier that day.
  • It started with body aches and sore throat, but progressed to persistent fever, fatigue, cough, sinus pressure, and a little disorientation when trying to move around.
  • Today is the first day I’ve felt better than the day before, although I’m still feverish, and very tired.

So, there are some specifics you can pray about. This all came right on the heels of a decision to take a risk and follow through on something I felt called to do. I’ve had a lot of time to think about that – why I would get so sick as to take me out of commission right after deciding to take a risk and follow through on something.

I’ve felt guilty for leaving the band high and dry after putting them through that long practice. I feel weird for missing two days of work and leaving an experiment running 4 days too long. I miss my friends at RC, and am sad to miss pastor TJ’s first morning. My wife was out of town, and I’m disappointed that I wasn’t able to hang out with her when she came back.

But things are on their way back around again. I’m getting better, and there’s plenty of time to catch up with everyone. It’s easy to get in a funk when you’re sick, but now it’s time to get OUT of the funk!

November 5, 2009

Changes, or, Out On a Limb

Back during War Week, several months ago, I started getting a sense that I needed to change the way I led worship. After seeing the worship leader at Revival Tabernacle, spending some time studying my favorite leaders, and praying a lot, I came to the realization that I wanted to try leading without an instrument. This was kind of a crazy idea to me, and I wasn’t sure how I’d pull it off, but it’s become clearer and clearer over the last few months that I’m supposed to do this.

What came out of all that prayer, thought, and observation surprised me. I realized that my guitar is a crutch at times, a chain at others. It’s a crutch because I use it as an excuse to pull my focus off of God; it’s a chain because I’m incapable of truly “letting go” while playing.

I love the guitar. I loved being a ‘rock-star’ for awhile in grad school, and I love shopping for new instruments. I love learning new songs, playing them for the first time, and arranging them to fit my style and ability. But when it comes to the divine act of praising God, actually playing the guitar hurts me more than it helps me. This wasn’t true in the past and I’m sure it won’t be forever, but for now, it’s the hard truth I came to.

So I’m at this difficult place right now where I’ve decided to go out on a limb and walk away from my guitar for awhile, at least on stage. This puts strain on the band, and that’s not easy for me, as a leader, to deal with.

The band can read this, so I choose my words carefully. We just had a long, tough practice, and the one thought I keep having is “I hope I’m not screwing everything up.” We’ve had some issues lately that I think comes from over-familiarity with our “gig,” but arbitrarily throwing wrenches into the system isn’t the same thing as “shaking things up.”

Am I just throwing wrenches? Or will the chaos be constructive? My hope and prayer is that we’re all growing from this – that God directed me to try this not just for me, but for everyone.

I realize that some folks might be thinking “Geez, it’s not that big a deal.” But it is a big deal. It may not be to you, but it is to me.

For the record, if this turns out all wrong, or if I’m asked not to continue in this way, I’m ready to pick my guitar back up again. But it couldn’t hurt to try.

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You know, I need to speak from my heart more. I grew to despise blogging because I never spoke from my heart, and I felt like I was just playing a game of self-promotion. If I speak from my heart more, maybe I’ll start talking about myself a little less. I really hope so – there’s more important things in this world to talk about than me.

Anyway, good night. I love you, RealBand! I think I might be getting sick. Oink oink.

September 13, 2009

Out of town, or, Band on the run

This is a long post.  I’m following Netta’s advice and just writing, rather than try to “catch up” or acknowledge that it’s been awhile since I’ve written. I expect to lose everyone long before the end, but sometimes you just need to write.  Right?  Heh.

My wife and I drove down to Champaign, IL this weekend to check on a house my dad and I own down here. It’s been rented it out the past year, but the current tenant isn’t going to renew.  We’ve been trying to decide what to do with the house, and, in the meantime, it was important for me to come down and take a look at the property.  Things seem to be in pretty good shape if we want to rent it again, but there are lots of little repairs (and some big ones) if we want to try to sell.  

My dad isn’t keen on selling, especially in this real estate climate, and I’m not keen on overseeing a sale, especially with our upcoming purchase. So, while it might seem like we’re debating, the choice is actually pretty clear that we’re going to rent again.  We’ve got about 2 months to find one, or two, or maybe even three new tenants.  It’s a must that they go to our old church down here (it’s a pretty big church) because I need to have some kind of support system that can look in on hem, and I need renters I can trust since I’m so far away.

So far, no one has turned up, but there’s time.

Internet’s been a little sparse since we left Dearborn, but both times I’ve managed to check my email, there’s a bunch of stuff to handle.  Housebuying stuff, complaints, responsibilities, broken email addresses, and an experiment I forgot to shut down before leaving work.  Maybe let’s wait till tomorrow to go back online again, yeah?

I expect we’ll be back in town around 10 or 11pm (EST) tonight; we lose an hour traveling east.  My wife made a bunch of sandwiches to eat on the way here, which helped avoid the usual McHunger.  I’m not sure that we’ve got anything for the way back, though, so I’m a little scared.  The first two months after that bad doctor visit went really well for watching my diet.  I feel like the last month has been the exact opposite.  I’ve managed to drop a few more pounds, but I’m eating some stuff that I’m really not supposed to be eating.  I have another blood test on October 13 (two days before our planned closing, actually), so I need to stay on track at least till then.

My wife and I actually bought a new Bible last week.  There’s something kind of trite about that statement.  But we did, in fact, roll up to Family Christian in Canton (after a customary trip to Ikea) and pick up something new for us to share.  I’m not good with Bible names, but it’s some kind of Life Application Bible.  I started using it earlier this week, and I really like it.  I’ve been reading through Phillipians, to mirror what we’ve been doing at our Bible Study, and it’s been good.

I’m really excited to have a prayer room in our new house.  I haven’t worked out where it’ll be, but there’s a lot of space to work with.  I’m leaning towards building a small room in the basement, since we need to do some finishing there anyway, and there’s so much room.  At first glance, our apartment seems big, and it is, for what it is.  But, there’s not a lot of space to be alone or quiet, and there’s certainly no place to sprawl books and paper out over.  Everywhere I currently pray or study actually functions as something else, and thus carries a bunch of distractions.  This new place will be quiet and secluded, well-lit, and WON’T have a computer.  Just a desk (maybe 2), some lamps, paper. books, a fan, and maybe some music.  A good chair with a stiff back (comfy ones put me to sleep when I’m trying to study).  In the meantime, there are a few other places I can set up shop.  

I want my wife to have her own place too, which could very well be the same room I described above.  I don’t think the problem is that we distract each other, as much as the outside world distracts us when we’re trying to shut it out.  Yeah, it’s going to be a cool room.

We’ve been staying with the worship pastor of our old church.  He’s an old friend, and someone who mentored me as I was learning to lead.  He’s actually the same age as me, but a career worship guy, so he has a lot more experience, and obviously is able to dedicate most all his time to that calling.  Both nights we’ve stayed up late talking about music, our bands, our plans, and what God does through worship leaders and worship bands.  He showed me some awesome software that does a lot of what I currently do manually – the kind of stuff I’d never really know about since I only put in volunteer hours.  He burned me a few CDs, including an acoustic Israel Houghton performance that I’ve been hearing snippets of for awhile. It’s exciting, but sometimes makes me feel a little overwhelmed and underprepared.

Usually I’m itching to rejoin the “real world” after one of these mini-trips, but this time I think I might be willing to stay disappeared for another day or two.  That’s not an option, unfortunately.  When I get back, I need to deal with a second home inspection tomorrow, follow-up to that proposal we wrote last month, a website I’ve been working on for awhile, some weird relationships, remodeling budgets, a toughie worship song I’m trying to arrange, and high cholesterol (which is hopefully still at bay).  My relationship with my Bible has been very good lately, and with my wife; those two things are getting me through.  I think that’s how it’s supposed to be, though, so, all is well I guess.

Gotta go.  I know no one made it this far, but I feel a little better getting some thoughts out.  I hope you had some fuuuuuun.

September 1, 2009

The Plunge, or, AHHHH!


Tom and I spent hours on our matching cowlicks.

I haven’t updated in a few days, and there’s too much to report on for an expository post. So, here’s a list:

  • The Big Splash was this weekend, and it was awesome! It was a baptism/picnic event held by our church at Belle Isle in Detroit. The weather looked questionable, but things stayed clear and even a little sunny for us. I led an acoustic worship, which was a lot of fun. The food was great, our pastor’s message was great, and, oh yeah, the BAPTISMS were great! Hah!
  • Sunday evening, my wife and I headed out to the art fair at Russell Bazaar, and it was pretty sweet. I got The River on vinyl for $1, and a version of the Last Supper by the Mayor of Hamtramck’s husband! Not too shabby.
  • After much discussion and prayer, and with fear and trembling, my wife and I put an offer in for a house this afternoon. It’s kind of a Hail Mary low-ball offer, but we’ll see. Perhaps a few “hail Marys” would help. Just kidding. Maybe.
  • I’m teaching Logos, our group Bible Study, tomorrow evening. I’m reading through my notes now, trying to get things organized. It’s been awhile since I’ve led a larger group. I’m looking forward to it.
  • The last few days have been a blur of Joomla and WordPress, as I’ve worked on one job for our media company (Hungry Crow), and another for a wedding anniversary. Good times. Great taste. Of McDonalds.
  • I skipped the gym after work, due to the aforementioned hot real estate action, so I’m about to go now.

Ciao!


August 29, 2009

House Hunting, or, Big Decisions

After weeks (months) of online research, creepy drive-bys, and one-off open houses, my wife and I finally went out with a proper realtor and looked at some houses. In the last two days, we’ve visited about 15 homes, and I consider us lucky to have found 2 winners. It’s a hard position to be in, b/c while in one sense we’ve just started looking, in another sense this is the culmination of lots of looking. I don’t think either of us would be comfortable saying “yes” to a house after the first two days, but it brings up an interesting dilemma of when: when have you seen enough to make a good decision? Some books say that you should visit 100 homes before deciding. Others say 30. Others say that “holding out” sets you up for disappointment. Who knows.

The two houses we like are quite different. One is a Ford Historic home – it’s a bit smaller than the other one, needs work in the basement, and needs another bathroom. The other house is much bigger, has ample living space, but needs much cosmetic work in the basement and renovation in the kitchen. The Ford home has a nice backyard for gardening and kids, which are important to us, but it’s pretty plain. The other house has a wonderful backyard with many small plots for flowers, but maybe not so much for vegetables. The Ford house is a knockout value for the neighborhood; the other house might be the biggest house in the neighborhood (but is still a knockout value when considered by itself).

So, dilemmas abound. And it’s only been 2 days.

We will continue the search, but it’s been fun so far.

Someone tell a househunting story in the comment section. We’re off to Toledo to see my wife’s cousins. Peace!

August 27, 2009

529, or, Little Help Please

“More college grads bank future on private student loans…”

This is a series issue, folks. I’m sure many of you reading already know this. I meet with people over their finances, and one of the main debts I see are student loans. Credit card debt sucks, but the amount associated with student loans is staggering. $15-, $20-, $100,000. You might think that the deferability and low interest rate softens the blow, but it doesn’t. Financial freedom comes from more than just being able to make minimum payments each month – it comes from feeling free to act separately from your finances. $50K in student loans stares down every decision you try to make.

Now, if you’ve got student loans, there’s not much you can do but grit down and move forward. You received an education where, perhaps, you wouldn’t have been able to before. You might feel like your job sucks, but what you got is priceless nonetheless. It will be with you forever, in your head and on paper.

Anyway, if you’re young and just starting your family, I urge you to open a 529 College Savings plan. It’s like a retirement account, but for college education. And the benefits are awesome:

  • You pay no taxes on the account’s earnings.
  • The child doesn’t have control of or access to the account — you do.
  • If the child doesn’t want to go to college, you can roll the account over to another family member.
  • Anyone can contribute to the account.
  • There are no income limitations that might make you ineligible for an account.
  • Most states have no age limit for when the money has to be used.
  • If the child gets a scholarship, any unused money can be withdrawn without paying any penalty (just the tax).

These accounts don’t really have a catch – they just require discipline to fund. Don’t know where to start? Boom…right here. It’s never too late to start, and you have nothing to lose (see the bullets above).

Has anyone benefited from a 529, or currently contribute to one? Leave a comment!

August 16, 2009

Mid-Weekend Update, or, Wild and Crazy Guy


Wait, you mean I wasn’t supposed to paint my house with maple syrup?

It’s been an interesting weekend so far. What’s been going on?

  • My wife has been in Illinois since Thursday to catch up with some people, attend a wedding, and check on the house we are renting out down there.
  • After some evening hustle on Friday, I (we) finished the first draft of a proposal due to Uncle Sam at the end of the month.
  • I talked with 2 Jehovah’s Witnesses for about a half hour at the my door – in my pajamas. See yesterday’s post.
  • After compiling an updated list of potential properties, I drove around town in the little white Honda assessing them. While wooden siding is indeed charming, everything they say about its hassles is true.
  • I somehow found myself at Best Buy. I couldn’t help but wander around for a bit, right? Our receiver is about 8 years old, starting to go on the fritz, and not really up to modern-day tasks anymore. It’ll be time to upgrade sometime in the next year. So, in other words, I was doing research!
  • I watched an emotional and, at times, horrifying PBS documentary about sweat shops in Los Angeles last night. It centered around a group of workers who organized a 3-year boycott of Forever21, in response to being denied wages and legal working conditions. It was very good – it focused a lot of the individual people involved, and not just the legal stuff. It was really sad to hear how some of them (almost all women) came from such chaotic home lives, making $3/hr working 60 hours a week to support 3 kids, and having their husbands blow half of it up their nose or down their belly. I’m definitely going to be looking into where some of my clothes come from…
  • Church was awesome! We ran worship without drums, but the congregation stepped up and clapped us along. It was a lot of fun…but I can’t wait for Tom to be back :)
  • We recently picked our crop of heirloom tomatoes, which was limited to 4 big fat krill tomatoes (heirloom plants are finicky – you don’t get much fruit). They’re blood-red and very sweet. We’ve eaten three of them, including on in a sitr-fry I made this weekend. The cherry tomato plant is still producing a lot of fruit, and the jalapeno plant is producing big time too! I used one of the chilies in the stir fry … spicy! The yellow bell peppers are coming in, and the sugar snaps continue rolling in too.
  • My naked-weight hit 148 this morning. I was at 170 just a few weeks ago, so I’m really excited. I haven’t gotten back my most recent cholesterol results back (more than a week now) b/c my doctor was sick all last week, and they won’t release the records until he’s reviewed them. I’m hopeful that there was a big improvement, though. Pray for awesome numbers!

Oh, this is has come up about 4 times in the last two weeks, so maybe God’s prompting me to say something. “Hare Krishna” is not the same thing as “Hindu.” It’s important not to confuse the two if trying to reach either group. “Hare Krishna” is a group, or movement, centered around Hindu teachings and focusing on yoga and some stuff like that. Hare Krishna members tend…not to actually be Indian. There are maybe…100,000 world wide? I dunno…that’s a guess. Hinduism is an actual faith, albeit with a dizzying array of tenets, practiced by 940 million people, most of which are Indian. I was never much of a Hindu before converting, but in all my years going to temples and festivals and stuff, I’ve never once seen a Hare Krishna at one.

It’s come up a lot lately at work and church, so that was on my heart. Now it’s off. Off to church!

August 15, 2009

All Along the Watchtower, or, Castles Made of Sand


What’s with the racial stereotyping back there? Ooo child!

Sigh…I just had a long conversation with two Jehovah’s Witnesses who came to my door. They were two ladies, one 50-ish, one in her 20’s. We went round and round, talking about pretty much everything. What made me SO SAD was the programming. We agreed on lots of things, but they are programmed to be on the offensive constantly. I suspect that they don’t come across many practicing Christians in their door-to-doors. When we got to the stuff that we don’t agree on, their arguments were strange, and all involved twisting scripture around.

I learned that they don’t vote, b/c they believe that unless Jesus is on the ballot, we have no business voting. That was a new one to me, and I’ve actually put some time into learning about them. I kind of just let that one go.

We talked a little about the 200,000 or whatever; that was interesting. I think it’s a tall order to get around something so programmed into them in 30 minutes. But I sited what scripture I could.

We talked about what it means when the bible says that faith without works is dead – I’m not sure they got that either. There’s lots of scripture, but it’s not in their magazine.

It really made me sad! They knew lots of stuff, but it was all programming. If they’d just put down that cussed Watchtower and listen to God’s heart. Sigh. Their hearts are ripe for Jesus, but the weeds…the weeds have choked Him out. We could have just agreed to disagree and celebrated talking about Jesus together, but they kept making conflict.

I should say that they were really nice – when I say “conflict,” I don’t mean escalation. But she (the younger girl) kept saying “now, then, let me ask you this!” but it would be something we’d just talked about and already acknowledged we agreed on. It was like she was walking down the Watchtower road. The older lady was pretty quiet.

I invited them to Real Church and gave them cards – the older lady was from Hamtramck, and the younger girl’s mom lives in Hamtramck! But…I also know that JW’s are very controlling, and are forbidden from attending other churches.

Man…that sucks. It’s good to know that I won’t be thrown out of my church for sitting through mass once a year when my devout Catholic friend comes to town.

Castles made of sand fall in the sea eventually, right?

An unfortunate postscript is that I’m in my pajamas…a ratty shirt with holes and workout shorts. I thought it was the UPS guy, who’s basically like a part of the family now. That will teach me to skip the peephole. I was really embarrassed, but I had just gotten done praying for something interesting to happen today, and I wasn’t about to shut the door in God’s hilarious answer.

Anyway, hope you’re having a great day! Come to church tonight. http://www.1realchurch.com. Pray for my new Jehovah’s Witness friends. Hehe.

There’s too much confusion…I can’t get no relief!